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Moving Forward During Bereavement
By Lucille Rosetti, contributor and writer to Runningforrealestate
There can be many benefits to moving locations after enduring a significant loss. A new home can offer a change of scenery and fresh start, one you can make new memories while still cherishing old ones.
Here are a few things to consider, if you think you are ready to relocate after losing a loved one.
While buying and selling a home is an action that requires a lot of thought, in order to get through it with as few headaches as possible, you should hire a qualified real estate professional.
You should then spend time researching where you would like to move so you feel comfortable embracing the added change. If possible, rent instead of buying to give yourself some flexibility in decision making, as it can take time after a loss to think clearly enough to make such a permanent commitment. Lastly, develop a budget you feel comfortable staying within both in your search and sale — and stick to it.
As you prepare to move, you might find the idea of packing and downsizing difficult. Deciding which of your departed loved one’s items to keep or discard is an important step in one’s grief. Keep anything you think may provide you with comfort, and when in doubt, know that you can always get rid of it later. The grieving process is different for everyone, so do what you feel is best for you.
If you’re reluctant to throw away their belongings, but also don’t want to keep them, consider passing them on to other family members who may enjoy having them. You can also repurpose items in a way that allows you to make your loved one feel included in your new home. This can be done by making an album out of photos instead of showcasing them throughout the house, or taking samples of some of their favorite things and creating a memory box with them.
Forbes magazine recommends blocking off a chunk of time in which you can focus exclusively on that single task. If it is too hard for you to take on alone, ask for help. As you go through the packing process, make sure you label everything that is in each box so that unpacking is easier on you. Use clothes, towels, bed linens, and old newspapers as an affordable way to prevent delicate items from breaking.
If you’re moving during the school year, chances are it will be a bit difficult for your kids. However, with the right support system in place, you can help make the adjustment smoother for them. Communicate with the school via their teacher, counselor and or administrators on any special needs your child may have as well as the context of the recent move. Find similar activities for your kids to engage in. When your children share their feelings, make sure you try to understand what they’re going through and be sympathetic even though you’re going through your own transition and change, according to The Spruce.com.
It’s crucial you keep an open dialogue so your kids feel they can communicate with you about how they’re coping. It may also help to encourage them to keep in touch with their friends from their old school so they don’t experience additional loss.
While it won’t be an easy experience, if you feel moving away from your old home will help you and your family in their grief, you should rest easy in that decision. Take the appropriate amount of time off for them to gain a sense of closure and find points of interest in the new residence that may excite them. In time, your pain will be transformed into a fond memory of your loved one.